Dahej Ka 'Rate Chart': An Officer Speaks Bluntly About Dowry | Ranvijay Singh IP&TAFS

Dowry and “Gifts”

The guest argues that dowry remains illegal but is often normalized as a “gift” or customary transfer. The distinction can become blurred when families request or expect gifts, and disputes may later involve demands to return what was given.

Status-Based Expectations

He describes a tacit, status-based “rate chart” in some communities, with expectations varying according to a prospective groom’s position in government service, as well as region, caste, and family background. He cites figures reportedly discussed for senior civil-service posts—including amounts in the crores—as examples of social practice, not verified or official rates.

In his account, wealthy families may compete for such grooms, disadvantaging families that cannot afford the expectations.

Personal Example and Criticism

The guest recounts that a wealthy visitor offered his family a Mercedes and other benefits in exchange for marrying the visitor’s daughter. He criticizes the practice for treating women as commodities and allowing families to negotiate their futures without their input.

He supports people choosing partners based on compatibility, without being constrained by caste, religion, or race.

Presenters and Contributors

• Prince Luthra: Presenter and interviewer
• Ranvijay Singh: Guest