Red Flags from the Book of Eve Episode 43

Episode 43: Eve Meyer

Episode 43 welcomes Eve Meyer, a professional horse trainer with strong opinions about nearly everything—especially dating, sports, and men who drive oversized trucks.

Background and Career

The hosts open with jokes about Eve’s biblical name. She was nearly named Gabriel, and she says growing up as a heavier kid named Eve in Catholic school made religion class particularly awkward.

Eve moved out at 16 to pursue riding and eventually became a professional trainer. The horse world, she says, is wildly expensive: even a few hundred thousand dollars a year counts as “cheap” at the top competitive level. After a hard-partying period led her parents to cut her off from riding, she spent a humbling year back in their basement before returning to the sport.

Meeting Sam

Eve met Sam at a bar. She says he tried to read her back tattoo, so she offered to reveal what it said in exchange for a drink. The hosts tease Sam for buying only one drink, while Eve jokes that even the bartender ended up paying for her next one. She also pokes fun at Sam’s habit of inviting women he meets out to the podcast.

Athlete Rankings

Eve’s athlete rankings are a highlight of the episode. Hockey and baseball top her list: she likes hockey’s aggression and intensity, and admits she has a crush on an NHL player.

Basketball is an emphatic no, partly because she can’t stand the squeaky shoes. She thinks soccer players cry too easily, and MMA fighters and wrestlers don’t impress her either. Baseball players, meanwhile, are attractive but tend to have the same personality, in her experience.

Relationships and Dating

Eve describes herself as independent but drawn to intensity and possessiveness, while recognizing that those traits can become toxic. She likes jealousy in theory, but says she’d bristle if a boyfriend actually tried to tell her who she could talk to.

She speaks openly about therapy, trust issues after being cheated on, and her tendency to misread people who later turn out to be “walking psychopaths.” She has been single for most of her adult life and would rather remain on her own than settle. She has even considered having children independently if marriage doesn’t happen.

In a rapid-fire round, Eve says she wants a romantic partner, prefers meeting someone in person, values confidence over patience, likes gifts more than compliments, and cares about a man’s height. She has particularly sharp words for men with lifted trucks—especially those who bring them into apartment parking garages—and jokes that certain cars reveal exactly what kind of man is behind the wheel. She also tells Sam plainly that his cheapness is why he isn’t her type.

Work and Future Plans

Eve works long days with horses, enjoys relaxing alone, and is planning to return to college. She’s interested in talent representation or management and would like to be known for her own work, not for being attached to someone powerful.

The episode closes with the hosts suggesting she could return. Eve shares her TikTok and Instagram handle: @evemeyer.13.

Personalities Featured

• Eve Meyer — Guest; professional horse trainer with a blunt, funny, and self-aware approach to dating.
• Sam — Host; jokes with Eve and admits he sometimes uses podcast invitations as a way to get a second date.
• J’naiva/Jay — Co-host; asks Eve about her career, family, and relationship views.