I'm just gonna spill the tea

Overview

Gloom (Kassie) returns to explain her long absence, describe a difficult year, and address criticism of a dating-commentary video.

A Frightening Incident

The year began with a crisis while Kassie was cat-sitting: her mother was badly mauled by two stressed cats. Kassie recounts the incident with dark humor, joking that the cats sounded like “melodic death metal” and that her 40-kilogram German Shepherd could handle the “two-kilogram” attackers. Despite the jokes, she was genuinely worried.

Her mother needed emergency care. Kassie felt that the cats’ owners were initially more concerned about the cats than about the injured person. At the hospital, staff cleaned the wounds, prescribed antibiotics, and warned Kassie to monitor them closely.

The Wedding and Grief

After returning from a trip to Alberta, Kassie was asked to attend a wedding. With only a few days’ notice, she also agreed to do the bride’s makeup after the makeup artist canceled. She stayed up studying tutorials, then did makeup for both the bride and her mother.

The wedding stirred up grief about Kassie’s late father. At the reception, she accidentally drank far more champagne than she realized, became overly chatty, and eventually disappeared into the bathroom. Overwhelmed and missing her dad, she broke down crying. A former high-school acquaintance comforted her, and the bride helped her out. Kassie felt embarrassed afterward, but the bride assured her that she hadn’t ruined the day.

The following day, a kind wedding guest took Kassie to meet working donkeys on his farm. One donkey kept its distance, inspiring Kassie to imagine it scolding her with a “you’re disgusting.” The visit lifted her spirits. Kassie says the gesture meant a lot because the man showed her kindness despite their differences in beliefs and politics.

Hinge Video Backlash

Kassie explains that her Hinge video was intended as personal commentary for her usual audience—not as a scientific argument or an attempt to provoke people. She acknowledges that some comments, particularly those about conservative men, were interpreted more broadly than she intended and says she should have included clearer caveats.

She adds that she can sometimes find common ground with people in person, but believes online arguments rarely allow for that.

Looking Ahead

Kassie says she wants to be more present, set better boundaries, and post more often. She plans to continue making a mix of commentary, reaction, gaming, and more involved videos.

She also hints that an upcoming donkey video will explore how people use animals—and ideas about animals—as tools against one another.

People and Animals Mentioned

People: Gloom/Kassie; her mother; Terry; the bride and her parents; the cat owners; a former high-school acquaintance who comforted Kassie; a wedding guest who took her to the farm; and hospital staff.

Animals: The cats, donkeys, sheep, and piglets.