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112. How to Become the Man Women Fantasise About | Stirling Cooper

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Lifestyle

Key relationship / lifestyle ideas

  • “Attention is the reward.” Romantic/sexual/argument behaviors are framed as forms of attention:

    • Kissing = attention
    • Sex = attention
    • Arguing = attention

  • Women are described as wanting safety; men are described as wanting respect.

    • Men are encouraged to lead with boundaries rather than emotional escalation.

  • Dominant / “passionate aggressive” intimacy is presented as a way to signal strength and build safety/respect—not as violence.

  • Correct “annoying” or disruptive behavior by withdrawing attention (not yelling):

    • Calmly stop the behavior
    • Physically and/or emotionally create space (“take days if needed”)
    • Return only when the behavior improves

  • Boundary-setting should happen early, not after months/years:

    • Expectations set at the start are framed as easier than reshaping habits later.

  • Avoid rewarding emotional outbursts.

    • If you react emotionally, you may be “training” the other person to keep pushing buttons.

  • Frame conflict management as leadership, not manipulation

    • Boundaries are described as what make a relationship function.

Dating / sex “tactics” (as stated)

  • Create dominance/hierarchy in the bedroom to improve overall relationship dynamic.
  • Tease-and-anticipate for arousal
    • Use daily “foreplay” cues: texts, goodbyes, whispers, etc.
    • Build sexual tension throughout the day instead of “rushing into it.”
    • When together: tease, delay, and let her “beg” (described as increasing attraction and submission).
  • “Sex is psychology.”
    • Arousal is described as imagination/expectation-management.

Health routines / “perfect day” protocol

A “protocol” described while traveling (Portugal vibe) includes:

  • Sunlight
  • Steak or raw eggs
  • Sports + training
    • Sparring/combat activity and/or heavy compound lifting (e.g., squats)
  • Sauna
    • Suggested frequency: ~20 minutes per week via 1–2 sessions
    • Claim: reduced all-cause mortality
    • Mechanism discussed: heat/sweating may “detox” fat cells by releasing stored compounds (including claims about phytoestrogens/artificial estrogens)
  • Sports massage
    • “Beat up” by a massage for tension release

Fertility / testosterone and recovery claims

  • Testosterone support (diet/sun/low avoidance of sunlight)

    • Cholesterol is described as a building block for sex hormones (rejecting “cholesterol is bad”).
    • Vitamin D from sunlight is highlighted.
    • Building blocks for calming neurotransmitters are mentioned (context below).

  • Alcohol: framed as mixed

    • Short term: may increase dopamine/sex drive and help some men last longer
    • Main caution: heavy/frequent drinking over months is tied to “whiskey dick” via lifestyle/testosterone/cardiovascular impacts

  • Premature ejaculation (PE) “steps”

    • Physical side: overly tight pelvic floor
    • Mental side: anxiety/performance pressure
    • Reverse Kegels
      • During urination: don’t “force it out fast”
      • The speaker describes pushing as decompressing/relaxing pelvic-floor muscles
      • Suggested schedule: once per day, or every other day, then transition to regular work
    • Regular Kegels later to build balanced control

  • Supplements for calming anxiety (PE context)

    • Goal described: reduce adrenaline/cortisol and increase calming GABA
    • Mentioned options:
      • Magnesium glycinate
      • Taurine (noted as present in Red Bull)
      • A “GABA precursor”
      • Methylcobalamin

Adult-industry / travel / career highlights (biographical)

  • The guest claims they built a meal delivery business (healthy/paleo prep meals), then sold it to escape the grind and fund travel.
  • They describe a “double life”:
    • Day work in the food business
    • Night work as a male escort
  • They later moved into adult film / entrepreneurship, presented as more accessible due to comfort with cameras/attention.
  • They describe escort clients as seeking a “boyfriend experience”
    • Formal dining, culture, articulation, “high-class” dates
    • Emotional core described as making wealthy, career-focused women feel beautiful and wanted (companionship reducing loneliness)
  • Swinger party description
    • Presented as more “regular house party” than porn fantasy
    • “Within an hour” people become naked; some start in lingerie or masks
  • Travel / police stories
    • Praise for “savvy” / “savage” foreign police and bouncers, including Spain and Italy examples (violent deterrence and accountability framed positively)

Notable locations / people / products mentioned

  • Locations: London, Miami, Sydney, Los Angeles, Portugal, Spain, Italy, Australia, Greece
  • People / references:
    • “Alex Hos(es)” (podcast/YouTube entrepreneur reference)
    • Iman Gadzhi
    • Andrew Tate (mentioned indirectly as a comparison/tribe reference)
    • Leonardo DiCaprio
    • Jordan Belfort (OnlyFans agent/wealth-whale skit reference)
    • Lily Phillips and Bonnie Blue
  • Products / brands: Red Bull, OnlyFans, Netflix, Amazon Prime, Uber, eHarmony, Red Hot Pie (swingers dating site mentioned)

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