The Moment TONY ROBBINS Changed My Entire Life

Summary

Lewis Howes reflects on Tony Robbins’s influence on his personal growth, relationships, plans for fatherhood, and return to handball. The episode was filmed at a large home in Bel Air, where Lewis discusses the extra work involved in preparing for an interview outside his usual studio.

Lessons from Tony Robbins

• Robbins encouraged Lewis to bring vulnerability and honesty into relationships instead of protecting himself by looking for reasons to hold back.
• He described relationship success as depending partly on which side of yourself you choose to bring to a relationship—not simply whom you choose.
• Lewis says Robbins helped him value himself, set boundaries, and avoid losing himself in intimacy.
• Robbins distinguishes success—getting what you want—from fulfillment—bringing what you’re made for to the people you love.
• Lewis reflects that changing his personal “story” and emotional state helped him move beyond fear and build a healthier relationship.

Marriage and preparing for fatherhood

• Lewis and his wife, Martha, describe their gratitude and affection for each other. They designed their wedding in Mexico to feel relaxed and joyful, with music, dancing, and time to connect with guests.
• Lewis says he feels more emotionally, physically, spiritually, and financially prepared to become a father than he did years earlier. He and Martha are expecting twin daughters.
• They hope to create an environment of love, support, acceptance, play, and adventure for their children, alongside boundaries, discipline, and values.
• Robbins recommends learning about parenting in advance, as with any major undertaking, so common challenges feel more predictable.
• His broader principle is that anticipation is power: understanding the patterns of a situation can make it easier to respond calmly rather than react in fear.

Returning to handball

• Lewis traces his handball journey from living on his sister’s couch in Ohio to playing in New York, joining the U.S. national team, traveling internationally, taking time off after an injury, and returning to competition in 2024.
• After a tournament win qualified his team for the world championships, Lewis took over the Los Angeles Handball Club, becoming its owner and president.
• He hopes to strengthen the club, raise awareness of handball in the U.S., and help other athletes pursue their goals. His competitive goals are to:
  1. Win a national championship.
  2. Win the North American Championship.
  3. Compete at the world championships.
• Lewis describes team handball as a fast-paced indoor sport played with seven players per side, including a goalkeeper. Players can take three steps after picking up the ball, and matches consist of two 30-minute halves.
• He describes courage as acting despite fear, supported by faith that events may be unfolding toward a greater purpose.

Notable locations, products, and speakers

• Locations: Bel Air; Los Angeles; Chicago; Spain; Mexico; Los Angeles, the planned host city for the 2028 Olympics.
• Product and sponsor: True Classic, which helped sponsor the handball team and its jerseys.
• Speakers: Lewis Howes, Tony Robbins, and Martha, Lewis’s wife.