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5 Ways to help someone struggling with their mental health | Mental Health Season - BBC Ideas

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Wellness and Self-Improvement

Summary (key wellness & support strategies)

  • Use active listening (top priority)

    • Repeat back what they’ve said so they feel heard and understood.
    • Ask supportive questions like “Are you really okay?” (not just “Are you okay?”).
    • Focus on listening rather than trying to immediately fix or “solve” everything.

  • Avoid “walking on eggshells” by reducing fear of saying the wrong thing

    • It’s normal to worry—what matters is showing you care and engaging gently.
    • Encourage conversation instead of silence or guesswork.

  • Don’t jump into problem-solving or impose goals

    • People often don’t want answers right away; they want to be heard.
    • Use a “one size doesn’t fit all” approach.
    • Work at the person’s pace, understanding how they want to move forward.

  • Offer support that includes practical next steps

    • Suggest appropriate resources such as:
      • GP support
      • Support groups
      • Joining or attending activities together (so they don’t feel alone)
    • Sometimes the best help is going with them (e.g., making appointments together).

  • Know what to do if the situation becomes urgent or unsafe

    • If someone talks about self-harm or ending their life:
      • Have the conversation promptly.
      • Explain the boundaries: you may need to involve others if there’s risk (while aiming to never breach confidence unnecessarily).
    • Encourage immediate support via emergency phone lines / Samaritans.
    • Clarify at what point you would need to step in and get other help.

  • Support the supporter: prevent burnout

    • Keep your own emotional “oxygen” charged so you can function and help effectively.
    • Use the metaphor: put your oxygen mask on first.

  • Self-care for the person struggling (and those supporting them)

    • Emphasize that people can’t “fail” by supporting others—self-care is essential.
    • Trust your instincts and be genuine; sometimes the right first step is simply:
      • sitting with them,
      • nodding,
      • encouraging them to share more.

  • Keep communication open

    • Talking is repeatedly framed as very important.
    • Encourage ongoing connection (someone listening and staying engaged can improve wellbeing).

Presenters / Sources

  • Dr Will Murcott — Mental health nurse; Senior lecturer with the Open University
  • Fakira — stated as Sandeep’s mom (guest speaker)
  • Sandeep — referenced in the video (personal story context)
  • Josh — referenced as someone in the guest’s life (support/therapeutic role)
  • Family Trust — mentioned in the context of family/community support activities
  • NHS GP — suggested as a support route
  • Samaritans — mentioned for crisis support
  • Emergency phone lines — mentioned for urgent crisis support

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