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normal things guys do that I find attractive

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Lifestyle

Key dating/lifestyle takeaways (what she finds attractive in “normal” guys)

  • Direct, expressive gestures

    • Guys who fully extend an arm and point to something while saying “Look at…” / “Do you see…?”
    • She particularly likes the directive/intentional body language behind the pointing.

  • Posture + movement

    • When a guy throws a ball (any kind: basketball/baseball/etc.) and you can see the force/effort in the throw.
    • When a guy slows down from a sprint/run, especially with confident posture.

  • Emotional honesty

    • Guys who admit or embrace being nervous or excited (instead of pretending they’re nonchalant).
    • She finds it cute when they show emotion clearly (e.g., giggly on a date).
    • She dislikes the pattern of hiding emotion so hard that it seems like they can’t handle it.

  • Casual authenticity (including “imperfect” performance)

    • Guys who casually sing when a song comes on:
      • Can be attractive if they sing well or if they own that they’re bad.
      • Less attractive if they don’t realize they’re off-pitch (she describes it as cringe).

  • Warm, natural presentation

    • In photos, she prefers guys who actually smile rather than doing “serious/chin-lift” poses or overly posed/self-enclosed stances.

  • Personality range

    • She likes when someone can shift between joking/light and serious in the same span of time.

  • Social initiative

    • She finds it attractive when a guy orders for the table (not required, but she likes the moment when they do).

  • Healthy reaction to being teased

    • Guys who lean into being made fun of or re-enact the thing they were called out for, rather than getting offended/defensive.

  • Depth in conversation

    • When a guy says “Tell me more” / “Give me more”, and encourages details rather than surface-level info.

  • Generosity + positivity

    • When a guy gives a stranger a genuine compliment—confidently, in a way that visibly makes someone’s day.

  • Confidence during meetups

    • She likes it when, during the awkward walking-up moment, the guy doesn’t break eye contact or pretend not to notice her—he acknowledges her before she gets there.

  • Shared “tea/gossip” energy

    • When a guy matches her reaction to gossip/“tea” (e.g., getting equally into it: “no way!” / “oh my god”).
    • She notes it’s often silly, but still appreciates the enthusiasm.

  • Body language she reads as natural

    • She likes a guy who sits fully back in a chair/couch, with ankle over knee and arm resting on the chair/couch (taking up space in a relaxed way).
    • She doesn’t like “man-spreading.”
    • She also likes when someone looks at her to see her reaction—especially if it’s clearly tied to an inside joke.

  • Texting vibe

    • She prefers guys who use emojis or memes (as opposed to being overly “nonchalant”).
    • She dislikes texting in all lowercase with a “cool/nonchalant” tone and minimal expression—she frames this as a turnoff.

Personal “Hyo Buffalo” (good/bad/weird) life update

  • High / good thing

    • She’s been feeling low/lonely and says she’s been “sulking/shopping,” but her mood improved when:
      • Her brother and cousin visited NYC.
      • They created a sense of support and care—not burdensome help, but people who show up because they want to.
    • She notes they did a lot of eating and walking (not much sightseeing).
    • She also updated her hair: lighter brown with black tips.

  • Low / bad thing

    • During her visitors’ trip, NYC trains weren’t working one day.
    • That forced her to take two Ubers, costing roughly $15–$25 each (instead of her usual ~$3 train rides).

  • Buffalo / weird thing

    • August was an unusually strange month for her:
      • A dip in her tattoo career and overall income/business inconsistency.
      • She speculates it might be life “telling her to calm down,” and that things have felt closer to normal since September started.
    • She feels especially excited for fall, enjoying rain/gloom and looking forward to fall activities.

Notable locations, products, or people mentioned

  • Location: New York City (NYC)
  • Apps mentioned: Dating apps; Rya (she says she’ll only do it “this month”)
  • Transit: NYC trains; Ubers
  • People: her brother and cousin
  • Work: tattoo career
  • Other: hair color update (lighter brown + black tips)

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