가정폭력 예방교육(가정폭력 예방, 우리가 놓는 디딤돌)

Key message: “Safe, warm family” doesn’t happen automatically

• A home becomes safe/warm only when all family members actively make efforts.
• Domestic violence is not “just a family matter” or a “trivial” issue—it includes many non-physical forms.

What domestic violence includes (broader definition)

Domestic violence includes violence by family members, covering:

• Physical violence
• Emotional and verbal violence
• Sexual violence
• Economic violence
• Any abuse in an intimate relationship, even without a legal relationship (e.g., dating violence can fall under similar domestic violence laws)

Core characteristics of domestic violence

• Continuous and repetitive (doesn’t end after one incident)
• Often dismissed as trivial (“it will resolve itself” → victims delay seeking help)
• Occurs in intimate relationships, where:
  • the perpetrator may also appear loving at times
  • victims may take longer to recognize harm and have trouble escaping

Types of domestic violence (and practical understanding)

• Controlling violence

  • Monitoring behavior/appearance/relationships
  • Checking phones, interfering with friendships, inspecting spending
  • Even “small control” gradually destroys autonomy and decision-making

• Verbal violence

  • Insults, profanity, shame/fear-inducing language, unwanted nicknames

• Emotional violence

  • Guilt, belittling, threats/shouting
  • Manipulation using intimidation or dependency

• Physical violence

  • Hitting, pushing, throwing objects, injuring, restraining

• Economic violence

  • Using financial control to restrict freedom
  • Forcing repayment terms, unreasonable interest, coercive gifts/money

• Sexual violence

  • Unwanted sexual acts/physical contact
  • Preventing contraception, denying responsibility for pregnancy/STIs
  • Consent matters even between partners/married couples

Real-world example takeaways from the stories

• Economic control can appear as “providing for the family,” but still becomes coercion:

  • allowance withdrawal, rigid accounting, permission required to spend

• “Caring” can become abusive when it comes with pressure, guilt, and control:

  • body-shaming/weight monitoring
  • forcing supplements/exercise to “make you prettier/healthier”
  • can escalate into extreme harm (the story includes self-harm risk)

Key wellness/safety and help-seeking strategies (action-focused)

1) Prioritize your own safety first

• Even when helping others, do not exceed limits that protect your own safety.

2) Secure evidence (documentation)

• Record verbal abuse:
  • use recordings if possible; otherwise write detailed notes/diary
  • distinguish what you remember vs. what you don’t
• Record physical harm:
  • take photos of bruises/injuries
  • get medical treatment and keep medical certificates

3) Clarify what you want (and plan accordingly)

• You are not obligated to immediately report or separate.
• Possible goals include:
  • escaping without separation, living separately
  • making legal separation possible
  • seeking punishment through reporting
• Set goals ahead of professional counseling to guide next steps.

4) Build a support system

• Tell trusted people (neighbors, friends, teachers).
• Ask others to:
  • respond/report if they hear violence
  • act as a witness during reporting
• Practical requests are allowed:
  • someone stays with you, goes to the hospital, or simply listens
• Inform teachers in advance so the abuser can’t reach/visit you by calling/appearing.

5) Seek professional help (don’t rely only on “enduring it”)

• Get expert guidance especially for:
  • safety planning
  • legal processes
  • counseling/medical support
• In Korea, services include counseling, medical care, legal protection, and shelters.

Hotlines / emergency numbers (Korea)

• 13-66: domestic violence reporting/counseling hotline (24/7)
• 112: emergency police call (if you can’t remember 13-66)
• Reporting is described as confidential, including for bystanders.

Community-level prevention (power + equality)

The training concludes with “how to prevent domestic violence”:

• Violence cannot be justified.
• Don’t ignore violence you witness:
  • report child abuse/elder abuse too
• Separate perpetrator from victim when acting as a bystander/witness.

Four reminders to build a safe/equal family culture

• You cannot do “as you please” with family members
• Safety begins with equality
• Use respectful language habits
• If you discover domestic violence: report immediately without hesitation

Small, practical equality examples

• Use a voting system in family meetings
• Let children participate in decisions (e.g., meal menus rather than parents unilaterally choosing travel plans)

Presenters / Sources

• Shin Yeon-jeong — Specialist instructor, Integrated Violence Prevention Education, Korea Institute for Gender Equality Education
• Korea Institute for Gender Equality Education (institution referenced for the presenter and education program)
• Korea support services / hotlines referenced in the talk: 13-66, 112 (domestic violence counseling/reporting and emergency police)