Why ASKING QUESTIONS over text message turns her OFF (Women HATE WHEN GUYS DO THIS)

Summary

The video argues that texting women becomes ineffective—often resulting in no reply or “ghosting”—when men use questions. The creator claims that written text increases perceived scrutiny in women’s minds (including tone, intent, and emotional meaning). In this framing, question-based messages can register as low-status, giving the recipient “leverage.” As a result, women supposedly disqualify the sender and disengage to avoid being positioned as the person who must pursue or carry the conversation.

Core Claim: Avoid “Fluff” Questions

A central argument is that men should stop asking “fluff and filler” questions like:

• “How’s your day?”
• “What are you up to?”

The creator frames these prompts as requiring the woman to decide whether to keep the conversation going. This is presented as a power dynamic: if a man asks a question, the woman can choose not to answer—often portrayed as a way to “test” or reject him. The strategy is presented as avoiding offense by steering clear of question-based structures that could lead to rejection.

Example After a First Date

To support the point, the creator uses personal-style examples from after a first date. He describes:

• Setting up the first date but avoiding asking to hang out again afterward.
• A scenario where the woman texts that it seems like he doesn’t want to see her anymore.

Instead of asking questions, he responds with blunt reassurance and assertion of exclusivity—e.g., telling her he doesn’t want her seeing other men. He claims her complaint is that he hasn’t asked her to hang out, which he uses to argue that women communicate more directly when they have to. In his view, not asking questions forces the woman to be the one to request more time.

Broader Dating Incentives

The video also connects texting behavior to broader dating incentives. It claims women are “hypergamous,” prioritizing the best available option. Therefore, continued follow-up after the first date is framed as pointless if the woman doesn’t reach back. Once she has other options, they become “obsolete,” so the creator suggests men should not keep trying to schedule a second date.

Proposed “Elite Narcissism” Style

The creator promotes an “elite narcissism” texting style, emphasizing:

• Mostly focusing on himself
• Sending statements rather than questions
• Using hearts and acknowledgements
• Ending messages in ways that make the woman expend more mental effort to respond

The overall advice is that mastering “the language of women” and improving attractiveness (e.g., gym time and cosmetic updates) will increase success. In this framework, questioning the woman is portrayed as a major mistake that prevents connection.

Presenters / Contributors

• Dashmark (video speaker/creator)