Dear INFJs, A love letter from an ENFP

Why ENFPs and INFJs Can Form a Close Bond

Linda describes why, in her experience, ENFPs and INFJs can form a particularly close bond. Although they may seem like opposites because they share no cognitive functions, they have similar broad preferences and values: both are idealistic, seek meaningful connections, and want to make a positive impact.

What Makes the Pairing Special

• A strong sense of being understood: The connection can feel immediate and unusually easy. INFJs may feel they don’t have to analyze or “read” an ENFP, while ENFPs may express ideas or feelings that INFJs have sensed but struggled to put into words.
• Long, free-flowing conversations: Their rich inner worlds and intuitive styles can lead to hours of conversation and a shared “flow state.” Linda says her INFJ friends can enjoy her company without feeling as socially drained as they might with other people.
• Mutual growth: Because they see the world differently, each can offer the other new perspectives. Linda says this can become especially meaningful as both people mature.
• Acceptance and authenticity: ENFPs may feel misunderstood for their unusual ideas or energy, while INFJs may feel like outsiders despite being socially adaptable. Linda says each can appreciate the other’s quirks rather than expecting them to fit conventional norms.
• Spontaneity and humor: Linda describes INFJs as more spontaneous beneath their organized exterior. Both types may value playful banter, shared humor, and conversations about how people think over small talk.
• Complementary strengths: Linda portrays the pair as partners in crime who can be weird together and help cover one another’s blind spots.

Considerations

Linda notes that intense connections can leave room for heartbreak. She also says INFJs are often mistyped, so people should consider whether the type description genuinely fits them.

Notable Mentions

Linda (the speaker); Stranger Things; Tinder; a train station; university.