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Just-Be-First Theory - How legit is it?
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Overview
The video argues that the “Just-Be-First” / “just be” relationship theory—the idea that if you simply date someone “from your own level” and treat them right, you’ll secure a long-term, exclusive commitment—is no longer reliably true in the social-media era.
Instead, the presenter claims that modern dating works more like a constant, competitive marketplace, where higher-status men can quickly “snatch” women away.
Main Claims and Reasoning
1) The old version worked because social media didn’t exist
The presenter argues that earlier dating norms (e.g., referencing around 2010) made it more common for average-looking local men to date and marry high-school sweethearts, without competing against famous people nationwide.
2) Social media creates sudden “DM” opportunities that disrupt loyalty
A central example involves footballer Lamine Yamal, who is alleged to have contacted a small-town / low-follower Instagram creator. The video contrasts low followers (about ~20k) with the “millions” that come after dating, claiming that:
- within weeks, he was seen with her,
- this kind of status/attention disruption makes it hard for a committed partner to “compete” once a celebrity appears.
3) Instagram/TikTok is framed as “Tinder in disguise”
The presenter claims that DMs are socially acceptable cheating and therefore women face fewer restrictions than they would on traditional dating apps.
As a result, the video argues that a boyfriend’s stability is weaker than it used to be.
4) Story narrative: “She wasn’t wrong in her mind—she had a rationalization”
Another example involves Giannis Antetokounmpo. The presenter recounts a “how I stole her” style narrative—where a woman reportedly shifted away from a boyfriend/partner after being contacted by Giannis.
The argument is that women often rationalize breakups as caused by the boyfriend’s behavior (e.g., being “clingy” or “inconvenient”), giving themselves moral justification.
5) If she moves on once status is revealed, it supports the presenter’s “status/money” view
The video also cites influencer and athlete-related cases to reinforce the idea that women “upgrade” when they encounter higher value.
Examples include:
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A short fitness influencer (“Lu-…/Lu MC”) The video claims he was mocked for arguing that short men can win if they’re jacked—only to be dumped shortly after his partner dated a taller man.
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Max Holloway Referenced in a story where a partner allegedly left an engaged/sustained relationship to be with Holloway after discovering his status and money.
Conclusion
The video concludes that “Just-Be-First” is obsolete and that dating outcomes are driven by multi-dimensional dynamics, especially:
- status
- money
- leverage
Even men who are “sub-8” (the presenter’s threshold) are said to still be able to find partners, but only if they have the right context—i.e., the “full package.”
Overall Tone and Worldview
The commentary is highly skeptical of women’s fidelity and frames social-media dating as predatory and transactional.
It repeatedly claims that women often don’t care about an ex-boyfriend being left behind, because the new relationship provides immediate benefits such as:
- fame
- followers
- status
- lifestyle
The presenter also argues that women are more likely to upgrade when they encounter someone with far higher social value.
Presenters or Contributors
- The video’s main speaker/commentator (not named in the subtitles; referenced as a channel host who “ended the commentary”)
- Lamine Yamal (athlete referenced)
- Giannis Antetokounmpo (athlete referenced)
- Max Holloway (fighter referenced)
- “Luke MC” / “Lu-…” (fitness influencer referenced)
- Max Holloway’s wife/partner and other unnamed “community members” (referenced as contributors to clips/examples, but not named)