Real Reason For Leaving America After 6+ Years | NRI Moving Back to India From USA

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Why They Left America and Moved Back to India

• They had planned returning to India “sometime,” but it wasn’t an immediate priority.
• In April 2024, both spouses faced layoffs around the same period.
• After the baby was born, visa restrictions and inability to travel to India created emotional strain.
• Key pressure point:
  • Their 2-year-old child wasn’t able to see grandparents, and this became decisive.
• Logistics/time pressure:
  • One spouse had a 60-day grace period and chose to leave rather than restart a new job-search cycle in the US.

They also described the US experience as a repeated “rat race” cycle:

• Get laid off → scramble for a job → repeat.

Their US Timeline and Visa/Work Background

• They both moved to the US in 2020 as international students:
  • F1 visa for her (followed by STEM OPT).
  • Husband received H1 approval on the first try.
• Visa change for her:
  • Her H1 was not approved initially.
  • After STEM OPT, she transitioned from F1 STEM → H4 EAD (took about 9 months).
• They married during this period and later had a child (subtitles suggest 2024).

Planning and Their “Last 60 Days” Travel Strategy

After a serious discussion:

• Husband would stop searching for work during the 60 days.
• They would travel as much as possible, then leave.

They used the 60-day window for a road trip:

• Started from New Jersey (East Coast)
• Took a two-week road trip to Florida
• Covered ~9–10 states total
• Then headed toward the West Coast, including California, Utah, Arizona, Nevada, etc.

They did not apply for jobs before leaving; job pursuit began in India after arrival.

Moving Logistics: US House, Belongings, and Money

• Car: sold
• House: put up for rent (not sold yet when they left)
• Furniture/home items:
  • Packed some items
  • Sold/gifted/donated the rest to friends/family (especially families with kids)
  • Left some items and let the tenant pay a symbolic amount for remaining furniture
• Investments:
  • They did not withdraw investments from the US.
• Money/tax planning:
  • Mention of an RNOR period (based on their length of stay)
  • Planning timelines to transfer money later

Emotional and Social Perspective After Returning

• They didn’t feel “shame” about moving back, even though some relatives viewed it as “backwards.”
• They described personal growth:
  • In the US, they became more independent.
  • In India, responsibilities often get supported by family/staff.
• Advice to others:
  • Discuss with family/partner and choose what improves life, rather than optimizing for societal judgment.

Life in India Now (Early Stage, ~45 Days)

• Location: Hyderabad
• Living arrangement:
  • Not fully settled/rented independently yet
  • Currently living with relatives; parents are about 30 minutes away
• Health/comfort issues mentioned:
  • Mosquitoes/insect bites
  • Child has some skin sensitivity/problems
  • Adjustment to hot and humid weather

Job Search in India: Approach and Results

• First ~2 weeks:
  • Adjusting to food, weather, and new surroundings
• After ~2 weeks:
  • Started networking and job applications
• Interview pipeline:
  • At least four interviews already:
    • Two via recommendations
    • Two applied directly
  • Some roles were early-stage; others were closer to final stages
• Why she feels competitive:
  • MBA in India
  • US Master’s (double master’s)
  • Combination of US + India experience
  • Interview questions included “why two master’s?”

What She Misses About the US (Day-to-Day Lifestyle)

• Spontaneous outings:
  • In the US, she could take the stroller and go out anytime with less planning
• In India:
  • Going out requires more planning (clothing, timing, safety considerations)
• Accessibility concern:
  • Notes that roads/paths aren’t often wheelchair accessible
• She also misses the “nature/space” benefits people often mention (parks, sky, ocean/mountains), but emphasizes that accessibility and routine planning are the bigger gaps.

Reverse Culture Shock and Cultural Differences

• Biggest shock:
  • People being more relaxed about time (appointments/calls/interviews can run differently)
• Example:
  • HR called suddenly to schedule an interview and showed little flexibility regarding the candidate’s availability
• Another issue:
  • “Lunch breaks” lasting much longer than expected, and waiting was hard when carrying a small child
• She expects differences in infrastructure/processes compared to the US.

Money Expectations and Mindset

• She expects a likely salary drop compared to the US.
• Coping strategy:
  • Reduce comparisons
  • Accept cost-of-living and lifestyle differences
  • Aim for peace rather than direct income benchmarking

Practical Action-Plan Advice for Others Returning

• If you’re returning (not purely due to visa):
  • Travel with friends/family in the US before leaving, if possible
• Planning reminders:
  • Consider investment/tax implications, including avoiding tax issues related to 401(k) and Roth
  • Planning differs based on whether you are single vs family
  • Pet relocation adds complexity/cost (she notes people moving with pets)

Her Final Core Advice / Mindset

• Don’t focus on societal judgment (“step backwards” narratives).
• It’s your life and your family’s happiness.
• Don’t become passive after landing:
  • Things won’t automatically work out—you must keep taking action.
• Stay ambitious:
  • Returning can make people too comfortable; keep the drive you built in the US.
• Build connections:
  • Networking, talking to friends, and recommendations can significantly improve job-search outcomes.

Citizenship / Child Status (As Described)

• Their child still has a US passport.
• They applied for an OCI card and entry visa (timeline suggests they may not have applied earlier due to uncertainty/timing).
• Husband’s work background:
  • US role described as data engineering
  • In India, he’s now targeting operations/IT-domain roles

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Notable Locations / Products / People Mentioned (From Subtitles)

Locations

• New Jersey
• Florida
• California
• Utah
• Arizona
• Nevada
• Hyderabad

Visa / Work Terms (System Products)

• F1
• STEM OPT
• H4 EAD
• H1
• I-140
• Green card (in process)
• OCI card
• US passport

Financial Products Mentioned

• 401(k)
• Roth

Speakers / People

• Sinduja (main guest)
• Hosts, including Tejaswini
• Audience members mentioned: Uma, Bhavani
• “Yudi” reference at the end

Platform

• Instagram (she documents her journey; host mentions adding her Instagram link)