هل يجوز مقاطعة الارحام الذي تأتي منهم الأذيه؟ | ابن باز

Question and Issue

A questioner asks whether it is permissible to cut off relatives who harm him—claiming they have even used “magic” against him—or whether he must maintain family ties.

The speaker (Ibn Baz) answers by grounding the ruling in prophetic guidance about maintaining silat ar-rahim (relations of kinship) and warns against severing those ties.

Main Points

1. Severing kinship ties is a major sin

• Cutting off kinship ties is described as a major sin.
• It can be a barrier to Paradise unless God forgives the person.
• Therefore, the questioner is urged to fear God and not sever kinship ties.

2. Be cautious about claims of “magic”

• The claim that relatives harmed him through “magic” may be baseless—possibly an illusion or lack of evidence.
• The speaker advises the questioner to:
  • Avoid acting on uncertain claims
  • Stay mindful of accountability before God

3. If relatives genuinely wrong him, options exist

If the relatives are truly transgressing, the questioner has legitimate choices, including:

• Forgiveness, which is permissible and carries spiritual reward.
• Legal action, which is permissible if real harm occurs.

4. The rule is not “cut them off by whim”

• The guiding principle is: maintain kinship ties unless there is clear justification.
• The speaker emphasizes that severing ties should not be done impulsively or out of personal whim.

5. When the questioner may be excused

The questioner is excused from the full obligation if the relatives:

• Refuse to visit
• Prevent contact
• Refuse to allow him to do what he owes them

6. Default approach: maintain ties with kindness

• Otherwise, the default is to continue maintaining kinship ties.
• The speaker urges dealing with them with kindness, even when they treat him badly.

7. Hadith: true kinship-connector is the one who reconnects

• A hadith is cited indicating that the real maintainer of kinship is the one who reconnects even if the other party cuts him off.

8. Meaningful example: persistence while being mistreated

• The speaker includes another hadith/historical example:
  • When one maintains relations while being mistreated,
  • The wrongdoer is likened to being “fed hot ashes,”
  • While the believer remains supported by God.

9. Conflict should be handled wisely

• If hostility is ongoing, the speaker recommends:
  • Mediation
  • Dealing through good and righteous intermediaries
  • Until the hostility subsides

10. Distance is allowed in cases of major wrongdoing—without impulsiveness

• The speaker acknowledges one may leave or distance themselves if the situation involves major wrongdoing.
• However, the approach should be measured, not impulsive—especially not based only on suspicions.

Presenter

• Ibn Baz (Sheikh Abdulaziz bin Abdullah bin Baz)