Do women ACTUALLY like it hard or slower and sensual? | Alexey Welsh

Summary

Alexey Welsh argues that the difference between “rough” and “slow” sex is not simply penetration speed. He presents them as distinct experiences:

• Slower, sensual sex emphasizes connection, intimacy, and attunement to a partner.
• More intense sex emphasizes surrender and heightened intensity.

Welsh recommends building connection before increasing intensity rather than assuming a partner wants rough sex from the outset. Gradually increasing intensity may help a partner feel more comfortable and make the experience more pleasurable. He also notes that preferences vary: some women may prefer slower sex, and apparent enthusiasm for rough sex may not reveal someone’s full preferences or experience.

Strategies and techniques discussed

• Treat slow and intense sex as distinct styles. Slower sex should involve its own kind of attention and interaction, not just the same movements at a slower pace.
• Progress gradually. Begin gently and adjust intensity in response to a partner’s reactions rather than starting abruptly.
• Prioritize connection and attunement. Pay attention to a partner’s overall experience and body, rather than focusing only on penetration.
• Use variety and skill at any intensity. Intense sex still requires attention to rhythm, sensitive areas, and a partner’s experience—not just force or speed.
• Avoid assuming preferences. Some partners may prefer intense sex; others may prefer sensual sex, or may go along with a style without finding it satisfying.
• Recognize that comfort varies. Welsh notes that some women may not want rougher sex, including because of discomfort or past experiences.

Welsh presents these points as guidance based on his professional experience; the video does not cite external research.

Presenter/source: Alexey Welsh.