Summary of When Women PLAY GAMES, Go Hot & Cold, or IGNORE YOU (Do "THIS" to Flip the Script on Her)
The video explains why women often act hot and cold or send mixed signals in dating, and offers practical advice on how men can handle this behavior effectively.
Key Points and Tips:
- Understanding Mixed Signals:
- Women often don’t fully know their own feelings, so mixed signals are a way to keep a man interested while they figure it out.
- Trying to logically analyze or "win over" a woman’s mind rarely works; instead, focus on changing her mood and creating emotional tension.
- Avoid Over-Analyzing or Needy Behavior:
- Emotional quicksand happens when a man obsessively thinks about a woman’s mixed signals, leading to needy actions like over-texting, gifts, or heartfelt confessions that push her away.
- Don’t chase validation or try to force clarity with serious conversations, as this kills attraction.
- Three Main Reasons for Hot and Cold Behavior:
- Women Take Longer to Fall in Love:
Due to evolutionary reasons, women are more cautious and need more time to develop feelings.
Men should slow down their pace and not rush the relationship, even if she initially seems eager. - Women Test Men:
Women test men’s masculinity and willingness to stand their ground by being flaky, canceling plans, or making subtle disrespectful comments.
The key is not to reward bad behavior or appear weak; instead, maintain boundaries calmly and confidently.
Being willing to walk away without drama shows strength and increases respect. - Fluctuating Attraction:
A woman’s attraction varies based on a man’s behavior, confidence, and attitude, not just looks.
Men must maintain interest by being confident, fun, and unpredictable rather than predictable or overly accommodating.
- Women Take Longer to Fall in Love:
- How to Increase Her Attraction and Attention:
- Increase Your Value:
Women value traits like masculinity, confidence, fun, and pre-selection (being desired by other women) more than just physical appearance.
Example: Joining social groups with women can raise your perceived value and spark her jealousy or interest. - Create Fun and Uncertainty:
Attraction thrives on fun, teasing, flirting, and unpredictability.
Avoid being overly nice or predictable; surprise her and keep her guessing to maintain excitement.
The "Scrambler" technique (linked in the video) helps create this dynamic by mixing high and low signals to keep her engaged. - Stop Seeking Validation:
When a woman sends mixed signals, men often seek validation, which lowers their power and pushes her away.
Instead, shift so she seeks validation from you, increasing your value in her eyes.
- Increase Your Value:
- Final Advice:
- Change her mood, not her mind.
- Recognize that mixed signals mean she’s not fully invested yet.
- Focus on increasing your value to gain more of her attention and attraction, rather than confessing feelings or giving gifts.
- Ensure she also offers value; don’t settle for a woman who only brings looks without effort.
Notable Mentions:
- Speaker: Bobby Rio, dating coach with 15+ years of experience.
- Recommended resource: “The Scrambler” technique video and “First Date Formula” course by John (offered pay-what-you-want).
- Related videos on channel: “The Tension Secret” and “Just Be Yourself” myths.
This video is aimed at men struggling with confusing dating dynamics and offers mindset shifts and actionable strategies to improve attraction and relationship outcomes.
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