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When Narcissists Get Money 💰…They Do THIS

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Key takeaways

Wellness and Self-Improvement

Key themes: What narcissists may do when they have money (from subtitles)

Personality shifts with financial power

  • Narcissists may appear nice when broke—seeking access and benefiting from you.
  • When they come into money, they can become more independent, cold, and distant, as if they don’t need you anymore.

Hidden income and manipulation tactics (especially covert narcissism)

  • They may not disclose money you assume they don’t have.
  • They may hide money by funneling it through toxic family members.
  • They may “play the poor” using self-pity and sympathy to get:
    • Handouts
    • You to spend your own money
  • They may claim they can’t pay for things (e.g., “I don’t know how I’m going to pay…”) while allegedly having a stash.

Escalation of addictions and “spending for indulgence”

They may use sudden or hidden funds to fuel:

  • Drugs (e.g., cocaine, weed)
  • Alcohol
  • Gambling (e.g., frequent casino visits)
  • Sex-related spending (strip clubs, hookers/prostitutes)

Status consumption (image-building purchases)

  • They may spend money on themselves to project wealth, such as:
    • Fancy cars (framed as a frequent “tell” to attract attention/supply)
    • Designer clothes
    • Facials/beauty treatments
    • Expensive assets
  • Even a “broke narcissist” may prioritize an expensive car to maintain the appearance of having money.

Career-advancement betrayal / transactional relationships

  • They may use a partner as a support system while they study/work toward professional success.
  • After gaining stability or a higher income, they may dump/discard the person, possibly for:
    • Someone “new” at work
    • “Young supply”
  • The relationship is described as transactional:
    • Nice when they need you
    • Cold discard when they don’t
  • Discard may happen if you resist, start seeing through them, or if someone else can “meet their needs.”

Legal/financial leverage in conflict

  • With money, they may become more dangerous by using it to hire high-powered lawyers for:
    • House/assets/money disputes
    • Custody battles
  • The video frames wealth as enabling an aggressive strategy in divorce court and similar situations.

Self-care / wellness or productivity strategies mentioned

Awareness and prevention

  • The core “strategy” is recognition: don’t assume someone is consistent.
  • Observe behavior across multiple life phases (happy/sad/angry, rich/poor) rather than relying on how they act only when it’s convenient.

Support via education

  • Encouragement to share awareness (podcasts/videos) to help others recognize these patterns.

Coaching / support option

  • The content suggests confidential one-on-one phone coaching via the linked site.

Presenters / sources

  • Presenter: Yas (mentioned as “Hi you guys, it’s Yas…”)

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