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If You Run Out Of Things To Say, Play This Simple Game

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Key takeaways

Wellness and Self-Improvement

Key wellness / self-care / productivity strategies (conversation confidence toolkit)

  • Use “Reminds me of…” prompts

    • When your mind goes blank, look around and say: “You know, that reminds me of…”
    • Use it to start new conversational threads or follow up on someone’s story.
    • Avoid one-upping by not repeatedly making your related story “more superior” than theirs.

  • Ask open-ended questions to keep momentum

    • Prefer prompts that invite explanation, not yes/no answers.
    • Example shift:
      • Instead of: “Do you like Toronto?”
      • Try: “How do you like Toronto? I’m curious to hear more about it.”
    • Use curiosity-driven questioning to deepen connection:
      • “Why did you decide to get into [that]?” (without overdoing it)

  • Use “revival questions” when conversation stalls

    • Non sequiturs that restart the flow, especially in groups.
    • Examples:
      • “How do you guys all know one another?” (group setting)
      • “So what’s your story?” (one-on-one)

  • Offer a complimentary “cold read”

    • Make a positive observation framed as an impression, then let them respond.
    • Examples:
      • “You look like the type who would be great with kids.”
      • “You look like you’re pretty into fitness.”
    • If you’re wrong, you can still discuss what gave you that impression—creating new material.

  • Flip the pressure: allow silence and actively invite them to continue

    • Treat silence as a chance for the other person to talk.
    • Practical steps:
      • Take a deep breath and maintain easy eye contact (silence for ~30 seconds can work).
      • Mirror by repeating the last few words they said to encourage elaboration.

Presenters / sources

  • Presenter: Not explicitly named in the provided subtitles
  • Source mentioned: Charisma University (online course)

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