How to Text Women (TIER LIST)

Summary (General Ideas)

The video presents a “texting women tier list,” framed like “hooping” (basketball). The core message is that the only real goal of texting is to spike her emotions and get her on the phone—and that anything that turns texting into “free attention,” interviews (lots of questions), or desperation/over-planning will cap your results or cause you to “brick.”

Key Principles Repeatedly Emphasized

• Texting goal: Get on the phone; texting itself has a “ceiling.”
• Avoid interview questions: Don’t ask things like:
  • “Where are you?”
  • “What are you doing?”
  • “What’s popping?”

Instead, use assumptions and banter.

• Don’t suggest meeting up by text: Mention linking/meeting up via phone, because texting it can spike her anxiety (e.g., she may think, “He wants to link me already”).
• Timing matters: Avoid daytime texting; prioritize nighttime. Responding too fast can signal you have “no life.”
• Avoid giving away too much attention/validation: Too many compliments/excessive positivity becomes “free daily doses of attention,” making you look like a fan/friend instead of a pursuing date/phone-conversion candidate.
• Use banter and “rage bait” carefully: Slight playful provocation and confident assumptions can create chemistry and get responses—unlike generic compliments or robotic scripts.
• Voice notes: Can help for banter, but too many voice messages can reduce urgency to move to a real phone call. Best used sparingly.
• Deep conversations by text are risky: If you go “deep” over text, you may have nothing left to talk about on the call.
• Emoji and tone discipline:
  • Use emojis sparingly (often only one laugh).
  • Avoid overly “friendly” or overly professional/capitalized texting.
  • Lowercase can read as more nonchalant.
• Pacing / engagement styles:
  • Fast texters = likely “cooked.”
  • Ghost texters = can work sparingly (breadcrumbing), but overdoing it backfires.
• Don’t be an “ATM” or transactional: The video strongly condemns behaviors that make you a walking money source or an emotional therapist instead of converting to a phone conversation and chemistry.
• Avoid high-risk “relationship dynamic” questions: Especially interrogations that hand her power or signal insecurity (e.g., “are you jacking me?”).

Tier List Archetypes Mentioned/Critiqued

Bad / Bottom-Tier Behaviors

• “What are you doing” merchant / interview-y questions
• Linked-meetup texts
• Over-validation (“free compliments”)
• Emotional/insincere insecurity questions (e.g., “are you jacking me?”)
• Pointless conversation (small talk that never moves to a call)
• Jester/TikTok spamming when you’re trying too hard
• “ATM texter” (money commands / being used)

Better / “Hooper” Behaviors

• Assumption-based banter
• Rage-bait that doesn’t overtly insult or overly compliment
• Skillful sexual/flirty texting with plausible deniability
• Using FaceTime/phone appropriately to set up real-life linkage
• Story replies and nonchalant interactions that don’t read like a script

Speaker(s) in the Video

• Single main speaker/host (referred to as “Coach Knox” and “the hooper” throughout, presented as one continuous coach/narrator persona)
• No other distinct speakers are heard clearly (the screenshots/messages shown are quoted examples from women’s text chains, not separate real-time subtitle speakers).