how to rizz a conversation on the phone with her

Summary

The presenter responds to a 17-year-old who says FaceTime conversations with his girlfriend often go quiet and that he struggles to start or sustain them.

Conversation tips

• Keep talking like you did when you were friends. Becoming a couple doesn’t mean you need to meet higher expectations or find a completely different way to talk.
• Use what’s around you as a prompt. Share something you see on social media or bring up a random topic, ask a question, and follow the conversation wherever it goes.
• Practice instead of avoiding calls. The presenter compares conversational confidence to learning a basketball skill: advice can help, but experience comes from trying.
• Don’t panic about pauses. Occasional silence is normal; you can pick things back up when a new topic comes along.
• Add light, playful flirting if it feels natural. For example, jokingly offer reassurance by saying you’d protect her from a silly hypothetical threat.
• Don’t put all your self-worth on one relationship. The presenter encourages viewers not to treat one person as their only chance at a relationship.
• Prefer calls to texting for conversation. Calls convey tone and attention more clearly, while texts can be easy to misread or split across multiple conversations.

Presenter and source

• Presenter: TrueCam host; name unclear in the subtitles.
• Source/question: An anonymous 17-year-old viewer describing difficulty talking with his girlfriend on FaceTime.