Confronting Xiaxue About Her Transphobia I Unfiltered Gay Podcast Ep 54

Episode Overview

The Unfiltered Gay Podcast launches its fourth season with a new venue, a live audience, and a two-part format. The episode features influencer Xiaxue in a candid discussion about accusations of transphobia.

Language, Pronouns, and Friendship

The hosts revisit a 2017 incident involving K-pop group Monsta X. Xiaxue says she was frustrated by fans crowding an airport exit and used a term she now recognizes could sound derogatory. She argues that language changes over time and says she no longer uses it. The group also discusses words such as “ladyboy” and other slang. Aiman explains that a term can feel different depending on who says it and how.

The conversation turns to pronouns. Aiman says they don’t personally treat misgendering as a measure of their identity, while noting that they sometimes correct Xiaxue when she uses “he.” Xiaxue says it is reasonable to ask someone’s pronouns, but worries that fear of making a mistake can discourage people from engaging. The hosts respond that straight people can also make an effort to understand queer experiences. Xiaxue maintains that people in the LGBTQ+ community do not all feel the same way about labels or pronouns.

Asked whether friendship with Aiman made her more accepting, Xiaxue says no: she considers herself accepting already and describes Aiman as a friend first, rather than someone she talks with primarily about trans issues. Aiman recalls that Xiaxue was supportive when they began presenting more femininely.

The exchange mixes earnest discussion with jokes, including a proposed name change to “Iwoman” and a riff about how “Samantha” or “Clarissa” sound like names from “CBD finance.”

Healthcare and School Policies

The hosts ask what trans-related changes Xiaxue supports. She agrees that barriers to care and school policies that could expose a young person’s private disclosure to their parents are serious concerns. She is less supportive of public funding for transition-related surgery and raises concerns about medical transition for minors, drawing on her own experience of postpartum mood changes.

These are presented as Xiaxue’s views. The panel also discusses affordability, therapy, and the difficulty of accessing care in Singapore.

Lighter Moments and Episode Tease

The lighter banter includes a story about Aiman being heckled outside a bar on Neil Road, leading to a joke about the street as “gay holy land.” Aiman also complains about receiving unsolicited, sometimes flaccid, Grindr photos while at work.

The episode ends by teasing a tougher “Super Unfiltered” second half for members. The questions in that portion are not revealed in the YouTube episode.

Personalities Featured

• Xiaxue
• Podcast hosts Sean/Shawn, Kieran, Isaac, and Aiman