I Have Sex With Disabled People For A Living

Overview

A sex surrogate and sex-worker-healer, Surora Grace (“Spicy Surora”), describes her work helping disabled clients with sexual intimacy, fantasies, and confidence. She frames her services as holistic and therapeutic, with strong emphasis on consent, rather than purely transactional engagement.

She stresses that disability does not remove desire. Clients may still want:

• sex parties
• BDSM/kink
• romantic or physical intimacy

She also notes that many clients struggle with shame, body confidence, trauma, and sexual dysfunction.

Career Background

• She grew up curious and sexually active early.
• She later tried to enter alternative adult modeling (e.g., “Suicide Girls”), but faced family backlash and shame.
• She used platforms such as OnlyFans (initially discreetly), and later expanded into formal sex surrogacy.
• She presents her work as both “sex work” and “healing,” depending on the client’s intention and needs.

How She Works With Disabled Clients

Entry into the specialization

• She began specializing after teaching or participating in a BDSM workshop at a women’s retreat.
• She connected with a disabled psychosexual therapist, who referred clients needing somatic, healing-based support.

Client needs and diversity

• Clients span many disabilities and injuries, including:
  • spinal cord injuries
  • cerebral palsy
  • muscular dystrophy
  • brain injuries
  • blindness
  • and others
• Many clients have very limited physical mobility or rely on alternative communication methods.

Suitability and capacity requirements

• She says families, carers, or teams may reach out.
• She requires detailed information about the client’s disability and capacity.
• She states she will not work with clients who lack mental capacity.

Typical process and session structure

• An initial intake that may include messages and sometimes video calls.
• Followed by an in-person session (often at a hotel).
• She starts sessions with calming practices such as:
  • breath work
  • meditation
• Then she may include:
  • massage and/or cuddling as needed
  • intercourse or kink (when appropriate)
• She includes aftercare and a check-in the next day.

Emotional support during sessions

• She emphasizes that many clients are extremely anxious/nervous and often have limited social support.
• Sessions may therefore include:
  • talking
  • reassurance
  • confidence-building
  • not only sexual activity

Boundaries and Emotional Safeguards

Evolving boundaries

• She says early on she had fewer boundaries, describing a “free for all.”
• Over time she tightened rules after issues such as:
  • disrespect or entitlement
  • demands for free service
  • constant messaging
  • difficulties with response timing
• She notes that when clients become overly attached—especially clients with brain injuries—these problems can intensify.

Her stated rules

• Contact only for booking/coordination.
• No constant texting.
• Firm limits on availability.

Why boundaries matter to her

• She credits her own therapy for addressing people-pleasing and “rescuer” tendencies.
• She describes boundaries as protective, not punitive:
  • “for me, not against you”
• She blocks or disengages with clients who pressure or abuse her.

Pricing and Client Volume

Base pricing

• She gives a base price of £350 per hour.
• Adjustments depend on the client’s:
  • budget
  • situation (including payment plans and longer sessions)
• She says she initially charged less and believes higher pricing helps deter abusive clients.

Capacity estimate

• She estimates her maximum capacity is about six clients per week.
• Sessions may last 2–3 hours and can be emotionally and physically taxing.
• Not every client needs intercourse; some prefer:
  • conversation
  • tea
  • massage
  • confidence coaching

Response to Critics and Her Worldview

• She argues that critics should educate themselves rather than rely on:
  • religion
  • social media
  • government messaging
  • friends/family opinions
• She wishes people would ask questions without judgment.
• She frames disability-related sexuality as normal adult “playtime,” not something to hide or treat with shame.
• Her broader goal is to help clients shed internalized beliefs that restrict them.

Personal Life and Relationships

• She describes relationship challenges involving tantra/yoni massage practices during a prior partnership.
• Her mother’s death (after alcoholism) is described as a major emotional driver behind her work:
  • she wanted to prevent others from “going down the same road”
  • she wanted to stop hiding her true self

Her current partner is described as supportive and, for some clients who fantasize about multiple people, willing to participate in group-intimacy scenarios—so long as it is consensual and aligned with the clients’ needs.

Future Plans

• She expects to continue long-term (“until I physically can’t”).
• She wants to build:
  • a school
  • retreats for disabled people focused on accessibility (both physically and emotionally)
• She also plans:
  • accessible sex toys
  • training programs for sex workers, sex therapists, and wellness practitioners
  • with an emphasis on real accessibility (not just theory), such as whether venues actually include ramps/lifts.

Presenters/Contributors

• Surora Grace (sex surrogate / presenter)