VIVIANE MARTINELLO RELEMBRA FASE DIFÍCIL NO CASAMENTO

2002: Marriage crisis & choosing a “different” faith

Viviane explains that in 2002 her marriage underwent a major upheaval because she stopped living according to Christian principles.

• During her high-school graduation, she wanted to attend the church graduation ball for the first time. Her mother agreed to make her a special dress, and she says her mother prayed/fasted that the experience would not frustrate her.
• She describes an incident where a drunk boy tried to pressure her, and her older brother Telmo intervened—guiding the situation and implicitly “protecting” her.
• Two weeks later, Viviane met again with the same man, who was a catechist in the Catholic Church (didn’t drink, disliked alcohol). They began dating.

Over about 1.5 months, he “converted” or deepened his faith. Viviane emphasizes a shift from religion toward a real relationship with Jesus and a deeper engagement with scripture.

They dated 3.5 years, married in the church, and tried to keep purity/holiness during the relationship—even though they still made mistakes.

Separation after marriage (about a year and a half)

After roughly 1.5 years of marriage, arguments escalated.

Viviane attributes the conflict to mismatched family culture and temperament:

• Her upbringing is described as very affectionate (her mother waking her with kisses).
• His Italian family is described as loving but strict—more rigid/conservative and less affectionate.

Viviane decides: “I don’t want this anymore,” and they separate consensually.

She mentions receiving support from trusted people (including Zana, who encouraged her to have patience). They separated for four months, signing documentation while the divorce process unfolded.

During the separation, each of them became involved with others—Viviane describes it as them “not wanting each other anymore.”

“Second chance” through God after separation

Viviane says that even while separated, she continued seeking God. At that time, her relationship with Him was mainly through religion, not personal intimacy—she describes reading scripture less consistently and mostly “talking to God.”

A turning point came when she felt life lose meaning and remembered: she “threw away a marriage.”

The next morning, her husband called, wanting to talk before the judge finalized anything. They experienced an intense reconciliation:

• They hug and cry “compulsively.”
• Viviane says she felt God reconnecting them.
• Viviane spontaneously promises love forever; he responds with “don’t go” and asks for another chance.

They contact pastors, parents, and mentors, and decide to give the marriage another chance—framing it as God initiating a transformation, not merely restoring circumstances.

Key lifestyle/discipline routine: renouncing television for a year

After a church service (she mentions the date August 28, 2012), Viviane says she felt God tell her:

“Go without television for a year.”

She describes it as a renunciation/covenant, and encourages spending time in God’s presence through prayerful surrender and a spiritual “opening” (visions and heightened spiritual awareness).

She also describes a struggle with impulses—soap operas as a habit and as something that had taught/influenced her. She receives a message:

• Soap operas = a “disciple” (shaping thoughts)
• Removing TV helps shift allegiance back to God

Her husband agrees to the same renunciation.

Restoration process + spiritual practices

Viviane says the restoration involved confrontation and change more than “comfort,” and that arguments gradually softened into forgiveness and Holy Spirit guidance.

She describes an unusual pattern during the restoration period:

• Morning conflicts
• By afternoon: praying in tongues / being full of the Holy Spirit
• Asking forgiveness and breaking pride

She emphasizes learning a devotional/prayer life:

• She begins daily devotion and reads Isaiah 55, describing her home as a “river of God.”

She later credits motherhood with further deep spiritual formation.

Pregnancy & prophecy

About a year after reuniting, Viviane becomes pregnant with their first daughter.

She says she received a clear message from God:

• “It’s a girl.”
• The baby’s name would be Vitória, and the name would be a lasting reminder of that purpose.

She also frames the pregnancy as undoing what “the enemy” tried to destroy—starting with the marriage and unfolding over years.

Motherhood as a “place of renunciation” and prayer

Viviane describes motherhood as transforming the heart—loving more than herself and sacrificing sleep and needs.

She encourages mothers (especially those breastfeeding or separated from church/friends) to see their season as:

• a blessing, not abandonment
• an opportunity God uses to grow them spiritually

She also shares a lifestyle/spiritual routine during early motherhood:

• In early mornings, when Vitória was a baby, she would hold her upright and have deep conversations with God, praying at home.

Themes she repeatedly returns to

• “Restoration hurts”—it isn’t just making things “the way you like.”
• God restores according to origin/design/purpose, not by merely patching the present.
• She uses a metaphor from Jesus’ first wedding:
  • the “best wine” comes from unlikely purification jars
  • God offers restoration in unexpected places, “chipping away” what isn’t aligned so purpose can emerge

She closes with the idea:

Pain can give purpose, and transformation often starts when it feels like “it’s over.”

Notable locations / products / speakers mentioned

• Church contexts
  • Catholic Church
  • A service where a pastor (Argentinian) delivered a message to her (she cites August 28, 2012)
• Places
  • Her neighborhood
  • Lia’s house
  • The beach (where she tells her mother concerns)
  • Supermarket line
  • A travel/plane situation
• People
  • Viviane (speaker)
  • Karina (host/interviewer referenced by name)
  • Telmo (older brother)
  • Zana (support figure)
• Religious text referenced
  • Psalm 91
  • Isaiah 55
• Food/product referenced
  • Pizza
• TV habit referenced
  • Soap operas (the habit she renounces)