I got my heart broken | how to let someone go, lessons on love, how I'm healing & moving on

Summary

Linda Sun reflects on a short, intense relationship that ended and the heartbreak that followed. She describes how anxiety, fear of rejection, and hope that her partner would change led her to stay while feeling increasingly diminished. Eventually, she chose to leave and recognized that her partner’s inability to value her did not determine her worth.

Her healing was gradual and uneven. She learned to accept that the relationship was over, stop waiting for her ex to return, and focus on caring for herself and reconnecting with supportive people. She also came to see that love can matter even when it does not last—and that choosing yourself can be painful but necessary.

Key Wellness and Self-Care Strategies

• Let yourself feel the grief. Cry, acknowledge the hurt, and allow time to heal rather than pretending to be fine, numbing the pain, or rushing into another relationship.
• Seek support. She credits therapy, conversations with friends, and support from family with helping her process the breakup. Her therapist introduced the feeling wheel to help her identify and name emotions.
• Accept what you can’t control. You can control how you love someone, but you can’t make them choose you or love you more by trying harder.
• Create distance and let go of hope for contact. Linda says going no contact helped her stop waiting for a message or reunion and move forward.
• Write down what wasn’t working. She listed the relationship’s problems and reread them when she found herself romanticizing it.
• Change routines and make plans. She filled her schedule with new activities and experiences to break old patterns and build a life not centered on the relationship.
• Move your body. Exercise—including joining a recreational team, playing basketball, cycling, swimming, and running—helped her feel strong and regain a sense of forward motion.
• Practice reflection or prayer. She prayed at the beginning and end of the day, focusing on gratitude, healing, and making room for what was right for her.
• Reconnect with meaningful places. She revisited locations associated with her ex with new friends and created fresh memories there.
• Invest in reciprocal relationships. Friends helped her through the hardest moments and reminded her what consistent, caring love looks like. She encourages people to let others support them.
• Choose self-respect over potential. She advises assessing a person as they are, rather than staying attached to who they might become. You can love someone and still decide the relationship isn’t right for you.
• Be patient with recovery. She notes that painful feelings may return in waves, but their intensity and frequency can fade over time. Healing is possible even when it feels far away.

Presenters and Sources Mentioned

• Linda Sun — presenter and narrator.
• Linda’s therapist — shared guidance about self-worth, attachment, healthy and unhealthy love, and introduced the feeling wheel.
• Linda’s mother — encouraged her to accept that the relationship was over and choose herself.
• Linda’s best friend’s older sister — offered reassurance that heartbreak eases with time.
• Linda’s friends — provided emotional and practical support.
• BetterHelp — sponsor mentioned in the video’s therapy segment.