Summary of Dating Coach: #1 Sign You’ve Found the Right Person (Or If You’re SETTLING)

Key Wellness Strategies, self-care techniques, and Productivity Tips from the Video

• Dating Mindset and Approach:
  • Don’t rely solely on dating apps; expand your social circle and engage in various activities.
  • Be proactive in dating; treat it like a business by going on multiple dates regularly.
  • Avoid long texting exchanges that create false intimacy; limit texting and prioritize face-to-face or video meetings.
  • Practice patience; meaningful connections take time and don’t happen every day.
  • Build resilience to rejection by understanding it’s normal and not personal.
  • Lower baseline expectations initially to allow relationships to unfold naturally, possibly as friendships first.
  • Slow down the rush to find “the one” and recognize love as a choice, not just a feeling.
  • Avoid idealizing or rushing chemistry; focus on character, values, and compatibility.
• Handling Rejection and Self-Esteem:
  • Understand that rejection comes in two forms: being rejected by others or rejecting others.
  • Build emotional resilience to face rejection without falling into learned helplessness.
  • Recognize that not everyone will be attracted to you, and that’s okay.
  • Avoid putting people on pedestals; attraction is often influenced by self-esteem and childhood patterns.
  • Be aware of fear of intimacy that may cause attraction to unavailable partners.
  • Work on self-awareness and self-esteem simultaneously to improve relationship choices.
• Healthy Relationship Foundations:
  • Prioritize being with someone who treats you well, respects you, and with whom you can be your authentic self.
  • Share core values and agree on what a “life well-lived” means to both partners.
  • Accept imperfections and tolerate small annoyances if the bigger values and respect are aligned.
  • Understand that attraction and chemistry are not sufficient alone for a lasting relationship.
  • Commit to ongoing growth individually and as a couple to combat boredom and stagnation.
  • Maintain connection through vulnerability, meaningful conversations, physical touch (not necessarily sexual), and shared activities.
  • Practice honesty and direct communication from the beginning, balancing openness with appropriate pacing.
• Self-Reflection and Growth After Breakups:
  • Reflect on your own contributions to relationship challenges without falling into blame.
  • Identify patterns from childhood or self-esteem issues that affect your dating life.
  • Acknowledge your strengths in relationships alongside areas for growth.
  • Take accountability for your role in relational dynamics to foster healing and better future relationships.
• Mindset Shifts:
  • Challenge negative beliefs like “there are no good men/women left” by examining how your choices reinforce these beliefs.
  • Change your “type” if you keep attracting the same unhealthy patterns.
  • Recognize that “the one” is a choice and that love requires continual effort and decision-making.
  • Let go of nostalgia and romanticizing past relationships that didn’t work.
  • Understand that healing and maturity change what qualities you find attractive over time.
• Practical Tips to Improve Emotional Well-being:
  • To get out of your head and reduce rumination:
    • Practice breathwork, exercise, and movement.
    • Engage socially and have healing conversations.
    • Focus attention outwardly rather than inwardly.
  • Incorporate novelty and fun in relationships to maintain connection.
  • Take leadership in initiating positive changes in your relationship.
  • Prioritize your relationship alongside other life demands, including parenting.
• Important Hard Truths:
  • No one is perfect; know what you can and cannot tolerate.
  • You must save yourself and choose a partner who supports your growth.
  • Make peace with your parents (or your past) to avoid carrying unresolved issues into relationships.
  • Letting go is easier and healthier than clinging to unhealthy attachments.

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Presenters / Sources:

• Jillian Tuki – World-renowned relationship coach, podcast host, and speaker.
• J Shett – Host of the Health and Wellness podcast and interviewer in this episode.

This summary captures the core advice and methodologies shared by Jillian Tuki and the host, focusing on mindset, self-care, communication, resilience, and practical dating strategies for healthier relationships.

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