Summary of CPTSD Are You In LOVE Or In TRAUMA? Find Out!

In the video "CPTSD Are You In love Or In trauma? Find Out!" by Michelle, a life and relationship coach, the discussion centers around distinguishing between love and trauma in relationships, particularly for those who have experienced childhood trauma. Michelle emphasizes the importance of recognizing emotional patterns formed in childhood that can influence adult relationships.

Key Wellness Strategies and Insights:

• Understanding emotional addiction:
  • Individuals may become attracted to emotional states that are familiar from childhood, even if those states are unhealthy.
  • Recognizing that familiarity does not equate to healthiness is crucial.
• Identifying trauma vs. love:
  • trauma:
    • Relationships characterized by a push-pull dynamic.
    • Emotional roller coasters with extreme highs and lows but lacking depth.
    • Feelings of insecurity and the need to earn love.
    • Patterns of chasing and fleeing in relationships.
  • love:
    • Starts slowly and grows over time.
    • Involves being one's authentic self without the need to earn approval.
    • Features mutual respect, acceptance, and healthy boundaries.
    • Emotional depth with a range of feelings, not just extremes.
• Evaluating Relationship Dynamics:
  • Reflect on past relationships to determine if they mirror childhood dynamics.
  • Understand that repeating patterns may indicate unresolved trauma rather than genuine love.
• personal growth and Responsibility:
  • Acknowledge that childhood experiences shape adult relationships, but adults have the power to change their patterns.
  • Emphasize the importance of personal growth and making conscious choices in relationships.

Self-Care Techniques:

• Seek Support:
  • Consider joining support groups like the Thriver School of Transformation for guidance on navigating emotional trauma.

Presenters/Sources:

• Michelle, Life and Relationship Coach, Founder of the Thriver School of Transformation.

Notable Quotes

— 03:07 — « If you grew up with those emotional states that I described where maybe love is paired with very high highs and very low lows with a very push and pull dynamic with having to earn love, you're actually in trauma, you're not in love. »

— 08:00 — « When you are in trauma with somebody, the highs are so high, the lows are so low, but if you really think about those highs that you think are so great, there's still not any emotional depth. »

— 09:50 — « If you feel like it has been trauma, that's nothing to be ashamed of because the reality is that as a child you didn't get to choose your upbringing. »

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