Summary of "ЖЕНЩИНА ИЗ FORBES: бывшая жена мошенника, мама троих детей, создатель бизнес-империи|Алиса Чумаченко"

Summary — key takeaways from the interview with Alisa Chumachenko

Alisa Chumachenko — Forbes-featured IT entrepreneur, mother of three, serial founder and investor — speaks candidly about business failures and successes, abusive relationships, risk-taking, parenting and mental health.
She emphasizes that careers and family roles coexist but must be actively managed; she schedules time for motherhood, relationships and “feminine” self-care.

Consciously define and schedule the different roles you play (businesswoman, mother, partner, “goddess”) rather than expecting them to switch on or off automatically.
Accept imperfection: balance is not constant; attend to the role you need at a given moment.
Use concrete supports — therapy, coaches, sport, discipline, trusted loved ones — chosen to fit your temperament, to build resilience.
Allow short, deliberate grieving after setbacks (cry, rest, comfort food), then get bored of suffering and start small steps forward — a “shuk-shuk” approach.
Don’t be ashamed to show domestic or maternal life publicly; modern audiences accept mixed images (for example, an “iron lady” making pancakes).

Therapy is central: she recommends psychotherapy for trauma and to learn to manage fear and anxiety. She returned to therapy after leaving an abusive relationship.
Uses a mix of approaches when needed: psychotherapy, coaching, physical practices, grounding techniques, sometimes medication/antidepressants and specialists for acute episodes.
Self-care practices include massages, walks, alone time to restore, and relying on family when stressed.
Boredom acts as a motivator: after a short period of sorrow, boredom pushes her to act again.

Signs of an abusive relationship include mood swings, constant self-blame, losing agency and the feeling of a “room with no doors” (no perceived exit).
Leaving such relationships is extraordinarily hard, especially when tied to business, money or children; women often must accept big losses to escape.
Many survivors do not recover without help; she can often tell within five minutes whether a woman is living with an abuser and advises therapy.
Alisa left an abusive marriage at great cost (she cites a personal loss of about $40 million) but does not regret the choice — it led to a different life, a new family and further business success.

“Room with no doors” — a way she describes the loss of perceived exit or agency in abusive relationships.

High tolerance for risk: she says she has risked hundreds of millions (mentions 200–300M) when scaling companies and sees risk as necessary to build billion-dollar businesses.
Failure is frequent and expected: she has more unsuccessful projects than successful ones, has started over multiple times (three major restarts), and closed several projects recently.
How she perseveres: allow short mourning, then move to practical small tasks; boredom ends rumination and prompts action.
Psychological barriers (fear, anxiety, self-sabotage) often prevent people from doing what they already know they should do — she presents business psychology as a way to unpick that.

She describes a “Pioneer Alice” subpersonality (people-pleasing, “good girl”) that can sabotage negotiations.
Steps to handle it:
1. Notice when it appears.
2. Understand and forgive that subpersonality.
3. Prepare an alternative adult response for negotiations and monitor for improvement.
Use role-play or consciously adopt an “adult” business persona when needed, while balancing authenticity and strategy.

Prepare for negotiations and possible triggers in advance.
Use small rituals and scheduling to ensure parenting and relationship time are not swallowed by work.
Accept that some emotionally driven decisions can be repaired or rebuilt, even if painful.
Be realistic about timelines: recovery or finding a new “big thing” can take years — be patient and keep experimenting.

A business psychology conference was referenced (free registration via link/QR) offering techniques for managing fear and achieving goals, plus advice on retraining as a business psychologist.

Speaker: Alisa Chumachenko (Forbes-covered entrepreneur).
Notable companies/deals referenced: Gamesay / Game Insay, Sberbank (a large deal that ended poorly), and other large-scale investments.
Career highlights and facts:
- Created approximately 10,000 jobs over her career.
- Cites losing about $40 million as a consequence of leaving a marriage/business partnership.
- Has had three major career restarts.
Anecdotes/locations: met the interviewer on Mykonos; mentions archetypal partners like “Ivan” (billionaire archetype) and “Matthew” (consulting executive).
Practical references reiterated: business psychology conference (link/QR), therapy, medication, sports, massage, grounding techniques.